Do you often feel at war with your own body?
Efforts at food restriction can set up a battle between what we think we want and what our body wants. Over time we begin to see our body as the enemy, not to be trusted or listened to. If you’re like I was, you may even find yourself so disconnected that you’re only dragging your body along because it’s attached to your head.
This is no way to live.
You may win the battle at hand but you won’t win the war. In the long run your body’s biological drives will undermine your conscious determination every time. This is why diets don’t work for long term weight loss. The body has a way of fighting back and ensuring regain.
But there is a way to win.
To win we have to step back, put down our swords (diet plans, scale, etc.) and seek peace. Which brings us to the fifth rule of Body Club: Always be kind to your body.
When you step back from the war you will be able to see that your body is you, one and the same. When you show respect and kindness you may be surprised at the ways it will support you.
Be a friend to your body and let it know it’s safe in your care. Listen to it. Respect its need for rest, pleasure, and nutrition.
This is where the healing starts. And it’s the place to come back to whenever you are confused or overwhelmed. It all starts with kindness.
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Body Club is my way of reminding myself and others of how to best live in a body. You can review the first rule of Body Club, the second, the third, and the fourth. And be on the lookout for our sixth rule coming soon.
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This week I’m reading Pain and Prejudice: A Call to Arms for Women and Their Bodies by Gabrielle Jackson. The author details the lack of understanding, research, and treatment for women in pain with specific attention to pelvic pain and the emerging understanding of 10 chronic overlapping pain conditions including interstitial cystitis, fibromyalgia, endometriosis, irritable bowel syndrome, and migraines. Women’s pain it appears is different from men’s and yet even the mice used in medical research are mostly male! This book makes clear that we know shockingly little about women’s bodies.
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