Buy new pants.
Buy at least one pair of new pants that fit, feel good, and flatter your body as it is right now.
It sounds simple, but it can be transformational.
Many of us feel needlessly bad about our clothes. Our body has shifts and suddenly nothing fits right. Instead of buying new pants, we seek a magical solution for what are normal body changes from aging, monthly cycling, illness, or stress.
And what if your body has changed in ways you expect to be temporary? Or you’ve gained weight that you hope to lose?
Buy new pants anyway.
And while you’re shopping, why not buy a new top or dress too? It doesn’t matter if they’re from a designer or the resale shop.
If your body does return to your previous size and shape then little has been lost. Pass the pants along to someone else, and buy new ones that fit. This is simple and can even be enjoyable, whereas facing a closet filled with clothes you can’t wear, won’t wear, or wear in discomfort is uselessly miserable.
Not having clothes that fit does nothing positive for your mood, motivation, or self-confidence. I know because I’ve been there.
For decades I only bought new clothes when my weight was at its minimum. But within a few weeks they were tight, and within a few more weeks they no longer fit. Because of this I had closets, and even a storage unit, stuffed with beautiful clothes in multiple sizes, but nothing in my actual size.
With time my advancing age, as well as changing trends, made these clothes more unrealistic. Yet I couldn’t part with them. And I couldn’t buy new ones that fit my actual size.
So despite having spent a lot of money on clothes, most of my life I’ve had little to choose from. This filled every morning and social occasion with dread and shame. Packing for a trip was torture. I never knew if I had enough clothes that fit to make it through.
My situation was on the extreme end, but maybe it will help you understand the cost of not accepting your actual size.
Self-doubt, anxiety, time spent trying on and agonizing, time and money spent storing the unused clothes and moving them around, the cost of alterations, arriving somewhere only to find that the pants or top I thought I could still make work was actually way too tight – all of these, and more, can be counted as costs. It was a system designed to keep me feeling bad about myself and it accomplished that goal.
Those clothes are all gone now. And in their place are ones that fit me.
I ultimately sought out a stylist to help me find confidence with this older, larger version of myself. Now all of the clothes in my closet are valid options. On a good day I can find an outfit that gives me confidence. On other days I can at least find something that fits.
It turned out that the weight I needed to lose the most was the weight of years of accumulated clothes in too small sizes. I kept clinging to the magical thinking that my next diet would permanently return my body to the unrealistic ideal I held in my mind, even as the years marched on.
Every life transition brings shifts in our body, and to not accommodate those shifts is to not respect reality. It’s not realistic to expect our bodies to be the same after pregnancy, illness, menopause, or the accumulation of years.
So make your life easier, and buy new pants. You’ll thank me later.
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